Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.

The book that redefined how we understand adult ADHD in relationships—and still leads the way.
ADHD doesn’t just affect individuals—it reshapes relationships. In Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD?, award-winning author and advocate Gina Pera delivers a compelling and deeply empathetic guide for couples living with the hidden struggles of adult ADHD.

This bestselling book has helped thousands of readers around the world recognize the symptoms of adult ADHD, uncover misunderstood patterns of behavior, and finally put a name to the confusion and heartache. Through expert interviews, in-depth research, and personal stories, Gina Pera equips readers with:

• A clear understanding of ADHD as a variable and often misdiagnosed condition

• Insight into how delayed diagnosis can complicate adult relationships

• Tools to break dysfunctional cycles and rebuild connection

• Strategies for managing rejection sensitivity, poor follow-through, and emotional volatility

• Practical guidance on finding effective treatment, including couples therapy approaches rarely used in clinical practice

• A message of hope, healing, and strength for both partners

Whether you’re the one with ADHD, the partner, or a professional supporting these couples, this book offers a roadmap to greater clarity, compassion, and resilience.

Gina Pera’s work has been praised by leading experts like Dr. Russell Barkley, Dr. Daniel Amen, and Dr. Harville Hendrix, and continues to serve as a trusted guide for navigating the ADHD relationship roller coaster. Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? is more than a book—it’s a lifeline.